Let's say you could go back to any time in your life.

Let's say you could go back to any time in your life. You couldn't change anything but you could relive everything just as you did before.

When would it be?

I would go back to when my oldest son was 2.

I was taking night classes at the local community college. I was trying to keep the house clean and organized, planning dinners and playdates at the park.

We'd visit my parents in my hometown often and I'd meet up with friends. He attended preschool a few hours a day at our local church. Our Westie named Mr. McFu was my son's best friend- they'd chase each other around the house all day.

Sounds idyllic right?

In hindsight, it totally was.

But I definitely didn't appreciate it and I often felt stressed and pressure to be "perfect". I absolutely missed a lot of joyful moments with my son because I was cleaning, organizing or whatever thing I thought was important.

Many happy moments I can't even remember. The best moments though were when I was truly present with him. At the time they seemed like no big deal. Being in the car and singing silly songs as we were driving to activities. Watching movies together on a rainy day. Mornings when his dad would leave for work and he'd crawl into bed with me. He'd drink his bottle and watch Curious George on the TV.

Now he's headed off to college and I wish I had made more of those moments. So I'd love to go back and relive the simple things.

Giving him a bath was a nightly chore, but looking back it was a special time that I didn't know I'd miss so much.

So, when is a time in your life you'd like to relive?

XOXO,

Jackie

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I wrote an article for Parents.com on building self esteem after having a baby.

Two years ago I wrote an article for Parents.com.

You can find it by clicking the link in my profile. Or you can search by the title "I'm a Mom and a Confidence Coach: Here are Tips for Building Your Self-Esteem After Having A Baby" CLICK HERE TO READ IT

Being a new mom comes with a lot of emotions and it can take effort to stay confident when there are so many things to learn. By making yourself a priority and learning to uplift and accept yourself, you can build your self-esteem and show up as the best version of yourself.

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Valentine's Day is kinda a scam.

Valentine's Day is kinda a scam.

But still, a girl likes a little chocolate and some attention anyway.

Quick story:

You know Mike & I have been together a long time- on and off since high school in fact. So that's quite a few V-Days.

Once, a few years into dating, we decided that we wouln't do anything for Valentine's Day. We expressed our love to each other every day and we didn't need a holiday to make us do it.

The day arrived and Mike didn't get me anything. He didn't do anything. Not even a little note or a single Hershey Kiss.

WTF.

He was shocked. I mean, we agreed, right?

Wrong. A girl wants something, anything, on Valentine's Day. My rational mind said it's a silly day, but my heart- my twenty year old emotion driven heart-said you fucked up buddy!

Let's just say that it is a lesson Mike has never forgotten, because I won't let him.

So if your girl says she doesn't want you to make a fuss, get your ass out to the store and get her some candy and hand write her a love note. Because everyone wants to be remembered on V-Day.

And if you don't have a guy or a girl this year, fuck it and celebrate with your friends. Galentine's Day is real, probably more real than Valentine's Day. I love my girls!

Happy Valentine's Day, ya'll.

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What does your wardrobe say about who you are?

What does your wardrobe say about who you are?

Most clients come to me because the want to look "pulled together".

Really what they want is to feel like they've got their shit together, and sometimes that starts with just looking like it.

The truth is, sometimes we all feel like we are falling apart. But when we put on a great outfit that we love and feel confident in- regardless of what the scale says-we just feel better and go out into the world and make better choices.

So start where you are today.

Don't wait until you get that job.

Don't wait until you lose 10 pounds.

Don't wait until your kids get a little older.

Stop waiting to be happy and do it now.

Go up to your closet and choose your favorite outfit. The one you feel the best in. Maybe it's your best jeans and a blazer. Maybe it's those incredible shoes you get compliments on. Put it on and feel great right now.

You'll see that you won't want to waste a day of feeling and looking great, so you'll go do something awesome with yourself. Maybe it's just being happier when your kids come home from school or maybe it's sitting taller in your meeting with the board. But you will be confident and you will feel great.

Don’t take my word for it. Click HERE to book your Closet Cleanse Service with me and I'll make you a believer.

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45- I'm ready for you!

Today is the last day I am 44 years old.

This is the first year that I really felt ok openly admitting my age out on social media.

I teach my clients to embrace who they are right now. But it isn't always easy for me to do the same.

I've always had a round and full face, so I looked younger than my age. In my 20s I wanted people to take me seriously so badly. In my 30s, even though I had built up experience and expertise in my field, I still never felt that way because my colleages always assumed I was at least 5 years younger than I was.

Looking back now I feel so much of my time was wasted and so many people could have been served if I had gotten over my B.S. ageism and just did my thing.

So now I'm in my 40s and I'm going to own it, damnit.

Yes, I still get surprised looks when I say my age. Yes, I still shrink a little inside. But that's ok.

I can take it as the compliment that it is and also be assured that I can serve my clients well with experience and confidence.

Mid forties, I'm ready for you!

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